Resensitization Step 3

Old habits die hard.

Anyone who has tried to break one knows exactly hard it is, whether it’s related to hygiene, food, exercise, or work. Habits have a way of sneaking back in when you aren’t paying attention. That’s what makes them, well, habits.

In those ways, desensitization is very much like a bad habit: it is hard to reverse and you can slip into old ways very easily, even when you try not to.

Have you ever picked up a movie, knowing that you probably shouldn’t, and said, “Well, just this once”? Or opened a book and think, “Only five more minutes and I’ll close it”? If you have, then you know how easily old paths traveled are traveled again.

Therefore, to increase your chances of resensitization you need to open up—find someone to keep you accountable…and someone you are willing to be accountable to.

They must be prepared to ask the hard questions, knowing it might make you defensive or even angry. They also must be discerning enough to not let you get away with half-baked answers. And you must receive those hard questions and give honest answers—without shooting the questioner.

It won’t be easy. Sometimes it might hurt. But two are more likely to endure through the mire than one alone.

“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-12